A refugee offers talks for fathers from Eritrea. His help to reduce patriarchal role understandings should now expand. “Are you a woman?” His Eritrean friends would have asked him if they had seen him doing housework, says Samuel Weldhegebriel. The refugee from Eritrea is one of the participants in the East African talks, which are held regularly in the Bernese Breitenrain district. Eritrean and Somali fathers should exchange their experiences here and learn to question their own role models.